Sometimes I realize my posts are a little “fluffy,” that’s the best word I could come up with. Not that I’m not honest on my blog, I am! But, it’s not raw honesty. It’s not putting myself out there for real, for real. So here we go, 5 little confessions…
1. Being a SAHM is a LOT harder than I thought it would be. I thought it would be fun, playing together, reading books, doing activities, walking around the neighborhood. And we do those things we do. But it’s also a lot more chasing around and hoping he doesn’t fall off the couch (again) or pull a knife off the counter. It’s a lot more crying and tantrums then I thought. It’s 100% more stressful than my last job (which was teaching high school by the way).
2. I do not agree with all those blog posts that you should “dress for your man.” I think you should dress for yourself. And if that means dressing sexy, or wearing clothes your man likes, then that’s great! Or if means your a fashionista, that’s great, too! I think we should be comfortable and confident in our clothes. Isn’t confidence sexy?
3. No matter how many comparisons you draw up, I will never think owning a dog is the same thing as having a child. And I’ve had both. We had our dog for many years before Carter came along, and in no way is it similar. You can try to convince me otherwise, and I will politely agree with you, but inside I will not really agree, because being a dog “parent” is not the same as being a person “parent.”
4. I still can’t decide if I want to have another baby or not. Every day it’s different. Sometimes I see blog post about siblings and pictures of the big brother holding the new baby and I yearn for that moment. Sometimes I can’t even begin to imagine being pregnant another 9 months, giving birth and having a newborn sleep schedule. Sometimes Carter cries nonstop from 5:30 – 6:45pm and my husband and I look at each other and without talking, we both know that we are both thinking “one is enough.” We’ll revisit this idea sometime later.
5. I seriously don’t like working out and always come up with some kind of excuse to not go. I know its important to be healthy and I need to work out! But the whole process of going just seems like a lot of work. Kind of like going to the dentist. Also, when I do go to the gym I never know what to do after I do my cardio. Sometimes I just watch other people and do what they are doing! I am a gym creepo!
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Thanks for linking up! I always thought I wanted to stay home with my kids but whenever I babysit I think hmmm maybe not. Just entertaining them for a few hours is a lot! I also agree you should dress for yourself. Whenever my girlfriends and I go out we laugh that you really dress for the other girls at the bar and not the guys. Guys don't care.
I hate working out, too. I do!! But, I have been good at making myself do it. I just became a sahm last week and I do have to admit… it is harder. I never sit anymore, which I sort of thought it'd be the opposite. Yet, I love it. š I think I want another baby, but then I think about how my two now are 5 and 7 and how much easier it has gotten…so we'll see.. š It really is a hard decision!
I don't agree with the whole "dress for your man" ideology either. if you dress for yourself and show how confident you are, that's what the man will find sexiest.
What did you teach in high school? I'm working towards my cert now in history and english for secondary ed, I would love to pick your brain!! lol
I hate working out too, like HATE IT. I've done it a few times over the past week and honestly I'm surprised I've even done that much!
We have alot in common. I'm constantly going back and forth between having another child and my son staying an only child. It's hard and I really don't think I want to be pregnant again. I hate working out too. I just don't enjoy any part of it!
Can I tell you how much easier two kids are sometimes???? They play TOGETHER! And then I have free time to put on makeup š Of course, it wasn't always like this. Newborns can't really interact. . . but I put in the work and it is paying me back now!
You can put a dog in a crate and leave it alone for hours. Not so much with a child! Sooo not the same.
Me and Bob are forcing ourselves back into "gym routine" this month. I go to my first zumba class on Thursday! Maybe if you did a class at the gym that would be better than just cardio? Like zumba or kickboxing or spinning?
One thing I used to do at the gym after elliptical machine was stretch. I'd do a bunch of stretches for flexibility, and then I'd do calf raises on those platform things they have in the "free weights" zone. And then I'd do some ab exercises with weights and some arm raises with weights. But if you want to see results, you should do like 1 personal trainer session to learn the machines and then create routines from that.
Also, having a goal really helps! I want to be bikini ready, so that gives me a timeline and a goal. You don't really need to lose weight, but just like tone up, so doing cardio 2 times and then some strength training would be fine. I recommend a class! It's always easier to go when you feel like you're "missing the class" rather than no one will notice, you know?
I identify with all of these! I LOVE my dogs, but no it doesn't compare to having a child. Children are a *little* more demanding than dogs! I've always worked and I really commend the SAHMs with toddlers. I think I would have lost my mind. Now that my daughter (only child and perfectly well adjusted, just sayin) is 9 I think about staying home and I'm trying to make that happen financially. Great post – thanks for sharing.
2. I haven't read any of these blog posts. Kinda glad I haven't! There's certain things I know Scott doesn't like and it's rare that he'll tell me he doesn't like something, so I generally don't wear those things unless it's something I'm really attached to. He prefers the no makeup look, so "getting all dressed up" generally isn't an issue around here.
3. I totally don't think having a dog is like a child. Anytime I've mentioned that a puppy is like a baby (I think I've only done that IRL, not online) I try to make it a point that I'm kidding. I love my dog. I baby him. I take dozens of pictures of him. But I do keep it in mind that he is, in fact, a dog. I have a lot of empathy toward him though so we treat him really well (i.e. spoiled). Also, I have a lot of empathy toward other pet owners now but I still don't consider myself a dog person. I just love MY dog.
(I like these kind of posts!)
thanks for linking up! i really want to be a stay at home something. since i have no kids i always say i just want to be a stay at home. it's mostly because i have so many things to do. i feel like i don't have time to go to work most days.