It’s always the same situation- tired mom (perhaps pre-coffee) meets energetic, disaster inducing kid. Coffee mugs are spilled, hair is pulled, legs are bit, the dogs water is dumped out and legos are hurled warp speed at moms head- you get the point. Hey, sometimes I am just in a grouchy mood which spills out into my interactions with everyone around me! And these are the moments, I am a little ashamed to admit, that I tend to “lose it,”- my cool. I know I am not the only mom who needs a “chill pill” once and awhile!
So how do you deal? For me these “bad mom” moments are something I am constantly working on, I am always striving to be a better mom, and an important part of that is yell less! Yell less, smile more. Here are some things I do for dealing with those “losing your cool” moments.
1. Pause. Take a deep breath. Close your eyes if you need to and count to 10. For me, the first step to relaxing in these kinds of situations is to step back away from whatever made me upset in the first place. Usually I quickly realize how trivial whatever I am upset about is and that makes it a whole lot easier to move on.
2. It always helps me to remind myself that he is still learning. He is just a toddler, always growing and changing and taking everything in. Sometimes he might do things on purpose, like climb on the counter to steal a cookie, but many other times he just didn’t know better.
3. Walk out of the room and look at cute pictures of your kid on your phone instead of the broken dishes (or whatever). Awwww so cute! Remember when he did that cute thing and everyone smiled and laughed? Now keep that memory in your head and head back to fix/clean up/whatever.
4. Change the situation. Sometimes it’s easy to get angry at something in that moment (when they just won’t listen!) but not as easy as we’d like to let it go. Something I’ve found helpful is to just change whatever I am doing at the moment and do a different activity! Have a dance party, go play outside or whatever would help you and your kids move on from that moment!
5. Forgive yourself. At the end of the night, when all is calm, it’s easy to let thoughts of the day run through your head and become full of regret. Forgive yourself and remember- tomorrow is a new day!
What are your tips for de-stressing or calming yourself in a not-so-cool moment?
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